Eliza's Self-Help
Contents
Directions for a Young Woman to Qualify Herself for any Common Service.
SECT. I.
Concerning the first Weeks after Marriage, vulgarly called the Honeymoon.
SECT. II.
Difference of Opinion in Matters of Religion.
SECT. III
Difference of Opinion in Affairs of Government.
SECT. V.
Neatness in general.
SECT. VI.
Behaviour to the Husband's Kindred in particular Circumstances.
SECT. VII.
The Danger of living in the same House with any Relation of the Husband's.
SECT. VIII.
Servants.
SECT. IX.
Talkativeness and Taciturnity.
SECT. X.
Giving and receiving Visits.
SECT. XI.
Places of public Entertainment.
SECT. XII.
Economy, and the Means by which that Virtue may be rendered doubly pleasing to a Husband.
SECT. XIII.
The great Advantages of Sincerity, both to ourselves and others.
SECT. I.
On Detraction.
SECT. II.
Advice and Persuasion.
SECT. III.
Rambles to Bath, Tunbridge, Scarborough Spa, and other Places of Public resort.
SECT. IV.
Well bearing the Passion and little Petulancies of a Husband.
SECT. V.
Coquetry, or behaving in such a Manner as may encourage Addresses of Gallantry.
SECT. VI.
Prudery.
SECT. VII.
The choice of Female Friends.
SECT. VIII.
The great Merit of Secrecy, especially in everything that concerns a Husband, either as to his Affairs or Person.
SECT. IX.
The Imprudence of a Wife in divulging the Secrets of another Person when communicated to her Husband.
SECT. X.
Complaisance,—and how far it will be extended by the Tenderness and Duty of a good Wife towards her Husband.
SECT. XI.
Temperance and Sobriety, and the great Care which should be taken to guard against all Temptations to the contrary in their very Beginning.
SECT. XII.
The extreme Folly of Affectation in every Shape.
SECT. XIII.
The Stupidity of consulting with, or giving Credit to Persons who pretend to foretell future Events.
SECT. XIV.
The Beauty and Good effect of Cheerfulness in a Wife.
SECT. I.
On being over-fond of Animals.
SECT. II.
The Difference between an inquisitive and speculative Disposition, and how far both stand in need of being corrected by Reason.
SECT. III
The imprudence of indulging too flattering expectations in Marriage.
SECT. IV.
The immoderate Love of Gaming, and its pernicious Consequences.
SECT. V.
Sloth, and the bad Effects of it, especially in a married Woman.
SECT. VI.
The Weakness of giving Encouragement to Tale-bearers of every Sort.
SECT. VII.
Behaviour towards a Husband, when labouring under any Disappointment or vexatious Accidents.
SECT. VIII.
Sleeping in different Beds.
SECT. IX.
What Sort of Behaviour will best become a Wife when finding that her Husband harbours any unjust Suspicions of her Virtue.
SECT. X.
The great Indiscretion of taking too much Notice of the unmeaning or transient Gallantries of a Husband.
SECT. XI.
The Manner of supporting the Detection of a Husband's Falsehood.
SECT. XII.
The Weakness of complaining of a Husband to Relations.
SECT. XIII.
The method which a Wife is justified to take, after labouring for a long Time under a Complication of all manner of Ill-usage from her Husband.
SECT. XIV.
How a Woman ought to behave when in a State of Separation from her Husband.
INTRODUCTION.
Addressed to all who either already are, or ever intend to become Husbands.
SECT. I.
Concerning a too great tenaciousness of the boasted superiority of mankind, and how very much it behoves a Husband to avoid indulging that disposition in himself.
SECT. II.
A method which, if observed by a Husband on his first marriage, may contribute towards making him live happily afterwards with his Wife.
SECT. III.
How far a Wife ought to be entrusted with the Secrets of her Husband in whatever regards the circumstances of his Fortune.
SECT. IV.
Interfering too much in those things which properly are under the direction of a Wife.
SECT. V.
Drinking to an excess, and some other particulars which may happen to be disagreeable to a Wife.
SECT. VI.
The manner in which a Husband ought to behave towards his Wife in public Company.
SECT. VII.
Some measures to be taken by a Husband in private life, which will seldom fail of very much endearing him to the affection of his Wife, and consequently promote their mutual happiness.
SECT. VIII.
The folly of a Husband in using too much freedom in his Wife's presence with any of her female acquaintance.
SECT. IX.
The manner in which it will be most proper for a married Man to carry himself towards the Maid-Servants of his family.
SECT. X.
The treatment which is expected, and ought to be given to a sick Wife, by every man who either is, or desires to be looked upon as a good Husband.
SECT. XI.
Parties of Pleasure, how far a Wife ought to be indulged in them, and the danger of a Husband's making long and frequent excursions from home.
SECT. XII.
The behaviour of a good Husband to his Wife in absence, when enforced by necessity.
SECT. I.
On what seems the best method to prevent any ill-humour between a Husband and his Wife, on the score of what is called running cash.
SECT. II.
Measures proper to be taken by a Husband who has a too parsimonious Wife.
SECT. III.
In what particulars a good Husband is authorised to restrain the Profusion of his Wife.
SECT. IV.
Some measures to be taken by a Husband in regard of the kindred of his Wife, which he will not fail to find his account in, more ways than one.
SECT. V.
Giving way to rage on every trivial occasion,—how unbecoming in a man of sense, more especially after he is married.
SECT. VI.
The great weakness of a Husband in discovering any uneasiness at the civilities his Wife may treat others with in his presence.
SECT. VII.
Petulancy in a Husband, how disagreeable to a Wife, and troublesome to the whole Family.
SECT. VIII.
The great mistake of a Husband who complains that his Wife is too religious.
SECT. IX.
Over-Curiousness and Affectation in Dress, how ridiculous in any man, but much more so in one who is a Husband.
SECT. II.
The unparalleled weakness of a Husband who, to the prejudice, perhaps ruin, of his Wife and Family, suffers himself to be imposed upon by those pretended Connoisseurs in Arts and Sciences who dignify themselves by the title of Virtuosi.
SECT. III.
Gaming—some part of the ill consequences attending that dangerous diversion, and how ill it becomes a married man in particular to indulge himself in it.
SECT. IV.
Some other things which it would be wisdom in a Husband to avoid, as being no less destructive to the peace and interest of his family than Gaming.
SECT. V.
The danger of Suretyship, and how utterly inconsistent with that affectionate caution which a Husband should always observe in regard of the interest of his Wife and Family.
SECT. VI.
The great cruelty and injustice of a man who, after he is married, engages himself in an amorous correspondence of any sort with another woman.
SECT. VII.
The last and very worst indignity a Husband can possibly put upon his Wife, on the score of incontinency.
SECT. VIII.
Some general hints to a Husband whose Wife does not behave in every respect agreeable to the character she ought to aim at.
SECT. IX.
The manner in which it will best become a Husband to behave on a full detection of his Wife's infidelity.
